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This blog is an excerpt from our mini-therapy on this discomfort.
what is a discomfort?
Discomfort is anything that could be stopping you from achieving what you really want to achieve. Any feeling or issue that you’re currently struggling with.
what is a mini-therapy?
A mini-therapy is hyper-personalized, bite-sized content delivered via an immersive and interactive therapy experience on the ‘being’ app. It’s designed by experienced mental health professionals and helps you work through a discomfort by using therapeutic interventions that they would use in in-person therapy.
Note: For the most optimal experience, try the mini-therapy on the ‘being’ app :’)
the excerpt:
Dear human,
I want you to know that it takes courage to admit that you struggle to believe in yourself and your skills even when others praise you. Although this is a common feeling, it can be tough to understand why it happens. But don't worry! The purpose of this mini-therapy is to help you better understand it.
Before we begin, I want to leave a phrase here. Feel free to read it slowly and understand how it feels to say it to yourself. Here you go!
I am deserving of love, respect, and admiration, just the way I am.
Let me say it again. This time, read it with me. I am deserving of love, respect, and admiration, just the way I am.
Reflective Question Tool
As you listen to this, what does it make you feel or think? Would you like to share it with me?
Glad to know you tried. We’ll explore why this is relevant as we experience this mini-therapy. Let’s get started.
Firstly, it's not uncommon for people to have a hard time internalizing praise, even when it comes from someone they trust and respect. There can be many reasons why this happens, so let's unpack a few of them.
One reason may be that you're a perfectionist. You have very high standards for yourself, and nothing you do ever feels quite good enough. This can make it difficult to accept compliments because you always feel like there's room for improvement. If this is true for you, it’s time to recognize and appreciate your work and the progress you’ve achieved instead of only celebrating the end goal.
Having a negative view of yourself can make it very difficult to believe that others see you in a positive light. Remember that you have unique talents and abilities that deserve recognition, so give yourself credit where credit is due.
Lastly, an experience of criticism or rejection can make it difficult to trust positive feedback. It's natural to be wary of compliments when you've been hurt before, but remember that not everyone is out to tear you down. Are there people who recognize your strengths and show genuine appreciation? We can start from there, and acknowledge their positive feedback when it comes your way.
While you work your way through achievements, we want you to appreciate your efforts and capabilities. This is so we know the praise is meant for you and true. We can reflect on this to understand your memories of genuine appreciation, including those you provided to yourself. Answer these questions:
Reflective Question Tool
Question: Can you think of a time when you felt proud of your accomplishments and allowed yourself to internalize praise?
Question: Describe a time when you truly appreciated yourself
You’ve done wonderfully! Thank you for sharing your true emotions here. Appreciating yourself genuinely and wholeheartedly can help you develop a healthy relationship with yourself.
A lack of belief in yourself and your skills affects the way you perceive yourself. If we compare ourselves to others, we may harm our self-esteem. You have a unique set of abilities and strengths that cannot be measured against others. Remember to challenge any negative self-talk or beliefs that tell you otherwise. Replace them with positive statements, celebrating your progress, accomplishments and skills to build confidence in yourself and internalizing praise.
Whenever you catch yourself engaging in negative self-talk, challenge those thoughts with positive affirmations, like the phrase at the start of this mini-therapy. For example, if you find yourself thinking, "I'm not good enough," challenge that thought with, "I am worthy and capable." It may feel awkward at first, but over time, positive self-talk can become a natural part of your thought process. I’ll let you try it, give genuine appreciation to yourself, and show some love to yourself.
Sending Love Tool
I am deserving of love, respect, and admiration, just the way I am
That’s amazing. I knew you could do it! You reflected today with so much kindness and compassion to yourself and offered yourself words of engagement with this mini-therapy. As we explored why you find it challenging to internalize praise and understand your self-perception, I hope you have gained a few insights into your own thought patterns and beliefs about yourself.
Remember, you are unique with talents and abilities worthy of lots of recognition and praise. You deserve to feel proud of yourself and confident in your abilities. Keep working towards that goal, and never forget that you have the support and compassion of those around you. I’ll see you next time. Take care and Just Be 💜